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Happy Birthday Toby

Dear Toby, Today is your 28th birthday, but to me you are forever frozen at 23. You lived for approximately 86,000 days and I cherished every one. Just recently I realised that it was all the ordinary days I miss … Continue reading

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Facing Christmas without a loved one, ten top tips

I first posted this blog when I was facing my first Christmas without Toby. I still think it is good advice so republish it every year. It starts around the beginning of November, maybe earlier. It is the same each … Continue reading

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Can saying F**K it really be therapy?

I have recently returned from a ‘F**k it retreat’ in Italy which is a cross between a holiday and a personal development experience. For six days I attended morning sessions on the roof terrace of a small hotel on a … Continue reading

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The power of a hug

Every morning I walk my little dog Elfie along the seafront at Newlyn Green. I used to do it at the same time every day when I was working, now I’m a student my times are more sporadic but it … Continue reading

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Beyond Surviving

I found this today and thought it was worth publishing to my followers. Especially useful for newly bereaved parents. Beyond Surviving: Suggestions for Survivors Iris M. Bolton 1. Know you can survive; you may not think so, but you can. … Continue reading

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What is grief?

Grief….I’ve read more about grief than I ever wanted to, and yet I still seen to be drawn towards it. I recently flicked through a supplement in The Times of the 50 best new books that you should read over … Continue reading

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Finding the healing

One of  the first thing I get asked by parents who have just lost their child to suicide is ‘How will I survive? There is no easy answer to this question. No formula, no prescription, no set of rules. Each person … Continue reading

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Don’t stop, never give up

Regular readers of my blog will know that the theme is ‘healing and recovery’, I started writing about how I was coping with my intense grief following the tragic death of my son, less than a year after he died. … Continue reading

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Happy Birthday Toby

Dear Toby, It seems to have become an annual tradition now, writing you a letter on your birthday every year. This year you would be 27 in earth years. It is hard to believe that 27 years ago I was … Continue reading

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The greatest gift you’ll get this year is what you already have

Usually at this time of year I publish my top ten tips of how to get through Christmas when you have lost a loved one. This year I have been moved to take a different view. If you want to … Continue reading

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