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Beyond Surviving

I found this today and thought it was worth publishing to my followers. Especially useful for newly bereaved parents. Beyond Surviving: Suggestions for Survivors Iris M. Bolton 1. Know you can survive; you may not think so, but you can. … Continue reading

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What is grief?

Grief….I’ve read more about grief than I ever wanted to, and yet I still seen to be drawn towards it. I recently flicked through a supplement in The Times of the 50 best new books that you should read over … Continue reading

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Finding the healing

One of  the first thing I get asked by parents who have just lost their child to suicide is ‘How will I survive? There is no easy answer to this question. No formula, no prescription, no set of rules. Each person … Continue reading

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Happy Birthday Toby

Dear Toby, It seems to have become an annual tradition now, writing you a letter on your birthday every year. This year you would be 27 in earth years. It is hard to believe that 27 years ago I was … Continue reading

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Three years

It’s three years today since Toby died. I hate to even write those words. I am on holiday on The Isles of Scilly. I am staying on a tiny island called Brhyer where over every hill is a deserted, white … Continue reading

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Rebuilding after the storm

Cornwall like a lot of the country was battered by devastating storms this winter. Whole swathes of coastline that had remained largely intact for hundreds of years were battered by relentless waves with a force that could not have been … Continue reading

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Mother’s Day takes on a new significance after the loss of a child

After the loss of a child it can be difficult to get through all the special days; birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas. But Mother’s Day is especially difficult. We are surrounded by fluffy images of Mums and children and all our friends … Continue reading

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Is acceptance the key to recovery?

I read a great quote the other day from Michael J Fox, an American actor who seemingly had everything but was diagnosed with early onset Parkinson’s disease at the age of 30. “Acceptance doesn’t mean resignation; it means understanding that … Continue reading

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It is so bad…..

I realise that someone falling upon this blog who starts reading from the newest posts may not fully understand the events or the experiences that have led me to this point.   A comment on my latest post has led … Continue reading

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Second anniversay

I am feeling much more peaceful this year and am spending the anniversary at home, just quietly remembering my beautiful boy. This is what I said at his funeral. What can you say about a 23 year old young man … Continue reading

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