Category Archives: Healing

Anniversaries – a time for reflection

I was dreading the first anniversary of Toby’s passing. My mind told me it was just another day on this planet without my son, but I couldn’t prevent all the triggers flooding in, the British Grand Prix, memories of what … Continue reading

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Guilt – part 2

Guilt is an emotion that comes up again and again from parents, and reading the comments in my support group prompted me to publish this excerpt from the book ‘A Handbook for Survivors of Suicide’ by Jeffrey Jacskon who lost his wife. … Continue reading

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Guilt

This is a tough one. I only have my own experience of grief and I know that everyone’s experience is not the same. But guilt is an evil friend that pops in to torment you every now and again. After … Continue reading

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Evolution

OK so this blog is evolving. Like everything, fog clears, pieces fall into place, what started as one journey ends up at a different destination. I have been reflecting, I do this constantly. I started off on a dream, then … Continue reading

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Are you waiting for your dream to come true?

Be careful about pinning all your hopes on a dream coming true. I started to think about this recently when I read about the 12 bus drivers who had all won millions of pounds on the lottery. It was in … Continue reading

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I have just slipped into the next room

Time alone can be very painful for the bereaved. For us mothers who have lost our beautiful child to suicide it is especially hard.  The house is full of pictures everywhere. On the wall, on the mantelpiece, on the dresser. … Continue reading

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First step on my journey back to a new normal

One step on the journey back to a new normal Everything changes when your child dies. Everything you though mattered, everything you worried about, everything you desired – it all pales into insignificance. I feel like a caterpillar that suddenly … Continue reading

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The Elephant in the room, I want to talk about Toby

I really want to talk about Toby, not so much about how he died but I don’t mind talking about that either. I really want you to ask me not ‘How are you?’ but ‘How are you coping at the … Continue reading

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Message to depressed or suicidal young men

I have blogged about my loss and there is a personal journey to be lived, where I grieve and remember my son, and find out how to live this new, changed life. I am not the type of person to … Continue reading

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Facing Christmas without a loved one

It starts around the beginning of November, maybe earlier. It is the same each year and there is no escape. Christmas ads on the TV, decorations being put up in the shops and houses lit up like Blackpool illuminations. Everyone … Continue reading

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